I’ve developed a new philosophy… I only dread one day at a time. ~Charlie Brown by Charles Schulz
A few weeks ago, I had some time to sit down with a mom-to-be, Jenny, and chat about what is on her mind. Due in April, this mom-to-be expressed two emotions – anxiety and excitement. The two feelings were very intertwined – there was excitement over the anxiety and anxiety over the excitement. Most of Jenny’s emotions center around the “unknown.” She was both nervous and intrigued (a bit) about the unknown.
Obviously, the baby-to-be would change Jenny and her husband’s lives. It is impossible for them to imagine what will happen to their current routine, existence, and established patterns. I did not want to spoil the surprise for Jenny, and it sort of is unofficial “mom code” to not tell. If we told new moms what to expect, it would strip them of all the crazy emotions that we went through. That would be unfair!
All this fear, anxiety, and excitement got me thinking……are these themes that cycle through a woman’s lifetime? I am definitely experiencing high anxiety over my entrepreneurial vision; forging ahead with my career while still doing everything I did before (nuts); leaving the fam to go to Spark and Hustle in L.A. for a few days; my mom’s recent surgery and ever-present recuperation; and who can forget how my week will go off its chartered path because of the impending snowstorm. Don’t get me wrong – there is definitely some thrill at the core of this, but right now it is manifesting itself as anxiety.
**editor’s note – I have a background in clinical social work, so every now and again – I have to throw out a term like “manifesting.”
Bckngruv-Readers – I am a planner (I know – no surprise to any of you). I like to map everything out, make lists, deadlines, timelines, and I could go on and on. Sometimes, this does not work out. There are times when everything is just too chaotic, to make exact flight plans (I like traffic metaphors – read this for more). However, it occurs to me that during these particular times when life is crazy and chaotic and so much is unknown, I tend to accomplish a great deal. I run around like a hurricane and just start cramming everything in to the 23 & 1/2 hours of the day that I have.
There is a price, though, to rushing and trying to tackle too much: Mistakes happen; I do not think everything through as clearly as I should; I do not get to savor the goodness of what is going right. Being a beagle lover, I have decided to adopt the aforementioned quote by the biggest beagle lover of all time, Charles Schulz (aka Charlie Brown) – I’ve developed a new philosophy… I only dread one day at a time. If I were a beagle, I would worry about nothing, but I figure one day at a time is a step in the right direction.
I suggest the same philosophy to moms-to-be….Having a new baby is so exciting, worry about each day as it comes. Take each new transition in stride. Jenny is a career gal, and is planning on returning to work in August. Being smart, this mom-to-be already is putting a support network together. Two of Jenny’s friends are also prego and due around the same time. The three moms-to-be have plans to lean on each other when it is time to go back to work. In the meantime, savor the first few weeks and take each day as a new adventure! Don’t worry, Bckngruv-Readers, we plan on visiting back with Jenny and crew after baby to see how all the unknown turns out and how they get their GROOVE BACK!
In the meantime, I cannot plan for tomorrow or Wednesday (when I am leaving and we will have snow and ice=worry) or next month. I can just make it through today! Let the “list making” for just today commence.
I leave you with one last thought. Last week, a fellow blogger, Fiona, tweeted this “Just 10 minutes of meditation first thing in the morning can mean more focus and increased productivity during the day.” I said that I was going to try it, but I did not because I was “too busy.” Huge mistake. This week, I am going to live in the words of both Charles Schulz and Fiona. I am going to worry about one day at a time, focus on some meditation in the morning, and take deep breaths along the way.