pay it forward part 1&1/2 – a toast to friends & fam

A few weeks ago I wrote about paying it forward, and I proposed that all of you should make your own pay it forward list.  Well, my list keeps growing, and I keep challenging myself to think of something really creative to do with it (probably a vlog is best — which is why I more than likely keep putting it off).  As the list keeps accumulating, it occurs to me that I really have not one but two pay it forward lists.  A personal and professional one….yes, there is some overlap, but really there is room for two lists.  While the professional pay it forward list continues to grow, today is a toast to the personal side.

In October, 2010, I basically woke up deciding to chase a dream, become a mompreneur, take a spark of an idea to market, and blog about the entire journey.  This came as a BIG SHOCK to my family and friends.  My family never saw me being an entrepreneur (I was a social worker turned stay-at-home-mom for 10 years) let alone many of them never heard of a blog! I am sure that my friends were equally surprised at my decision to follow an idea to market, or that I even had an idea that I wanted to bring to fruition.  Needless to say, there is a group of peeps that jumped on board and amazingly supported me. That is how I came up with the idea for pay it forward part 1&1/2.  This seemed logical to me since pay it forward part 2 is a list of those that have mentored and helped me, and in between the mentors and me is my first line of defense — friends and fam.

When you make a HUGE decision like I did, many life changes come with it.  In my decade as CEO of my household, professional volunteer, and unpaid life consultant, my days were enormously packed and full (yet a bit more flexible).  When I made the mompreneur choice, I needed to set deadlines, requirements, and hold myself accountable.  This was not a joke.  My being a mompreneur is new for many of my friends, and I completely appreciate their UNDERSTANDING.  You have no idea how much it means to me that my close friends respect my decision.  I love that they understand that this is not a whim, but rather I am setting a new standard for myself.

It is tremendous when these friends take an interest in my passion, ask questions, and even lend constructive suggestions (after all – what are friends for?).  Investigating bra-related products is great fun for me, and my friends are awaiting the reveal of my braducts.  I am also loving the group of friends, who do not wear bras (aka – men), who have complimented me on the blog and follow the progress of the braduct.

A big fear of mine was that my friends and family would not accept my new venture and schedule. I was and still am treading in water, trying to find the best way to schedule my days, organize my work, and accomplish what I need to do without losing my former self.  I am not always able to do something that I used to do with regularity like a mid-day walk or coffee run.  Guess what?  My friends are making it work!  They are taking the transition in stride and adapting, and for that I say THANK YOU!

My family has also brought their own enthusiasm to the table.  My mom and aunt are regular blog-readers, my cousin loans a male perspective & tons of legal translation, and even the out-of-towners are following the progress.  Now, I know why it was important that I have all those family brunches serving smoked salmon (which is my least fave food) because you all have my back now.  Although – every day is not easy with my boys.  This week’s snow day brought tears to my 7 year old’s eyes when I had to leave for a quick meeting. We made evereything right over a hot chocolate with mini-marshmallows date, but I can see that it is always going to be a constant balancing act.

If you are jumping in and changing gears, starting a mompreneur venture, or expanding a current one…my advice to you is HONESTY is the best bet when it comes to friends and family.  Schedule a little time with your key advisors/friends and explain your anxiety.  If you are HONEST about your fears and trepidations, your friends and fam are your best allies.  That is what I did, and it is working out well.

P.S. I can now also be found writing a behind the scenes look at becoming a mompreneur at– this is very exciting & nail-biting for me!  I shared this news with a good friend last week and she insisted on a glass of champagne to celebrate!  I am going to pay it forward for a LONG time.

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  • Nicole February 24, 2011, 7:32 AM

    Congrats again on your SUN blogging gig. First installment was excellent.

    I appreciate the reminder to pay it forward, and yes all that firm support and commitment from friends and family is invaluable when you are an entrepreneur.

    So a big thank you to You for keeping us all motivated.


  • Rachel Blaufeld February 24, 2011, 8:44 AM

    thanks Nicole –
    I am very excited about the SUN gig – hope to motivate others!
    and, I agree without our friends, we could not be entrepreneurs! Rachel

  • Fiona Stolze February 24, 2011, 8:44 AM

    You’re a great example Rachel. Thanks for the reminder to us all to keep paying it forward and feeling the gratitude as we go.

    Fiona Stolze
    Inspired Art and Living

  • Haralee February 24, 2011, 12:38 PM

    Great Accomplishment! It is so important to have your family on board as well as understanding friends.
    There is nothing more irritating than some family members or friends saying “Are you still doing that”? or “You went to College for this?”
    You keep setting the example and raising the bar!

    • Rachel Blaufeld February 24, 2011, 4:53 PM

      Haralee – you are so right! thanks for the encouragement. RB

  • Laurie Hurley February 24, 2011, 3:50 PM

    Rachel – I so admire your tenacity and enthusiasm for your new venture and am very glad your family is supportive. Regarding your son, he will be a very well-rounded person, having a deep appreciation for working women as he grows up – he has you as a role model. Keep us posted!

  • Rachel Blaufeld February 24, 2011, 4:54 PM

    Laurie – I sure hope so! He certainly doesn’t appreciate how the clean socks get in his drawer!! 🙂 RB

  • Hollee Temple March 19, 2011, 12:49 PM

    Keep on keeping on, Rach! Your boys will be so proud of you. I know mine are:)

    I also totally understand the need for friends to “get” the change. You probably won’t be as available as you were before, and that will be hard for some to understand. But I think your true friends will cheer your achievements! I am so excited for you.


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