moms: pay attention, creative, sexy stress relief

Happy Monday Morning Readers!  Yes, it is Monday…back to work, back to school, back to the grind.  For moms, this is sometimes a relief after an exhausting weekend of playdates, activities, errands, cooking, and fingers crossed – a date night.  I am particularly slow-moving today after a very stressful few days, and I am determined to have a tiny bit of fun and letting go on the blog today.  Introducing a fun way to get rid of the stress —

Daily Life for moms is extremely hectic and often times, STRESSFUL.  No shit, you say.  I just wanted to make sure that we were on the same page.  I have talked about relieving stress (yoga, exercise, all the usual suspects) before, but today I wanted to take a new angle.  Today’s topic is SEX! Come on Backngroove-readers, I write about 3 topics:  mommies, mompreneurs, and my work on lingerie-related products.  The Sex Talk was bound to happen sooner than later.

Did you know that sex is a great way of relieving stress?  It is.  However, I think many moms get caught up in a viscous cycle over sex.  We actually create stress for ourselves over when and where to have sex that we become so pre-occupied and stressed over it that we defeat the entire stress relieving strategy of SEX!  Frankly, I am just exhausted thinking about the whole cycle.




Today, I am so lucky to have a little help from Emily Morse.  Emily is the host of the Sex with Emily Radio Show, where she discusses sex, dating, relationships, love, and more.  You can check it out yourself at

Emily sheds some great light on the subject of moving sex from adding to the stress level to what it should be….stress relief.  She says: Sex is supposed to be one of life’s greatest pleasures, but eventually real life gets in the way and it becomes another thing on your endless ‘to-do’ list. How to bring sex back and make it fun? Well, here’s a few ways you can spice it up in the bedroom. But first turn off the television (or remove it from the bedroom, yes, you can do this) and your phone.

Ok ladies, in order to get our groove back on in the bedroom, we have to ditch the iphones, ipads, blackberries, blueberries, droids, and maybe even the TV!  Can you do it?

Another helpful realization for all those Backngroove-men from Emily before we get to the list:  It’s important to remember that our brain is the largest sex organ. Women can’t go from 0-60 like men can in the bedroom and takes longer for women to warm up so men have to keep this in mind.

Without any further waiting here is the fab list of tips from Emily:

~ FOREPLAY: This can be the first thing that goes in a relationship so it’s time to bring it back. Send a sexy text message saying what you’d like to do when you see her/him again or what you remember that was so hot from last time. Foreplay is also everything from kissing to oral pleasure. Remember to tease each other, a hot kiss in the morning will rev your mind up for sex later in the day.

~ FANTASIES: Talking about fantasies is a great way to spice up your sex life. Is there anything he/she has been wanting to try? Find out and try it!

~ SPONTANEITY: Try having sex at different times, days, places. If you always have sex at night, try setting the alarm for 20 minutes earlier in the morning. Always have sex in the bedroom…? Try it in the bathroom, in the shower, laundry room or rent a hotel room the night to get away.

~ ROLE PLAY: Meet at a bar and pretend you just met. This might sound silly but it’s a favorite among many couples.

~TIME AWAY: Plan a sexy night or weekend away. Or turn your house into a love den for the night. Set up a massage table and light candles and open a bottle of champagne. See where the night takes you.

I know that it is Monday Morning and that you more than likely have a very long to-do list, but stash this little cheat sheet from Emily and pull it out sometime soon.  Thanks so much to Emily for these tips to help get our groove on in the bedroom……RB

{ 8 comments… add one }

  • Vegas Fashion Stylist March 28, 2011, 1:17 PM

    My husband would love this advice and might even print this post out and stick in on my computer.

    • Rachel Blaufeld March 28, 2011, 2:11 PM

      Lauren – let me know if you find the post hanging by your desk? Rachel 🙂

  • Nicole Fende March 28, 2011, 7:17 PM

    LOL – I can think of places to put it other than your PC! Great post Rachel, I’m just a bit too shy to say much more 🙂

  • Denisse Marie March 31, 2011, 7:29 PM

    I have to say the role playing will definitely spice it back up! I will stop there ha ha ha.

    Nice way to start the week Rachel.


    • Rachel Blaufeld April 3, 2011, 4:44 PM

      Denisse – I hope you had a great weekend – wink wink! Rachel

  • Janice Schwarz April 2, 2011, 8:50 AM

    Great post. And yeah, that vicious cycle is tough, and not just on us!

    • Rachel Blaufeld April 3, 2011, 4:45 PM

      That’s right Janice –> no one is happy in that cycle!! RB

  • Kim@How To Manage Stress October 16, 2011, 2:11 PM

    This is fabulous information and I really like Emiliy’slist. I think I will try the time away suggestion next weekend, thanks!


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