I have been wanting to write this post for sometime….it is a post that I like to think of “Half-Ass is OK.” What does that mean? “Half-Ass” is an expression that a good friend of mine who should remain nameless encourages me to subscribe to related to things that do not really matter in the whole scheme of life. Take for example, making the beds. Over the last year or so, I have been encouraging my boys to make their own beds in the morning, and then after they would leave their room….I would sneak into their room and remake the bed a little more neatly. GUILTY! Not only is this a huge waste of my time, but really “Who cares?” Certainly my boys do not care, and if you visit me – are you really going to inspect my boys’ room?
So – what to do? I have trained myself over the last few months to just shut my boys’ doors in the morning and not to look! Apparently, my boys sleep just the same in a bed made “Half-Ass” as my military-tight made bed. My time is better spent cutting up fresh strawberries, answering emails, and talking to my boys in the morning rather than re-making beds, so I am learning to be “Half-Ass” in the mundane.
For someone who turns their nose up at mediocrity, this is an extremely difficult task. However, determining what can and cannot be “Half-Ass” is a very necessary pursuit to my success as a Mom and an Entrepreneur. Recently, I have been reading an amazing book, Good Enough is the New Perfect , by Becky Beaupre Gillespie and Hollee Schwartz Temple. Becky and Hollee, illustrate in a much more polite way my “Half-A**” theory. The book, based on unique data, more than 100 interviews, the latest research, builds on the growing “anti-perfection parenting” movement.
Becky and Hollee discovered some surprising findings from the their survey, which included working mothers from a broad range of professions and from nearly every state in the nation:
- Perfectionism emerged as the single greatest roadblock to juggling work and family; the “constant need to be the best at everything” far outweighed all other factors.
- Women who reported a “strong need to be the best at everything” (the Never Enoughs) were less likely to feel their sacrifices reflected their priorities, and more likely to feel they’d sacrificed too much.
- The Good Enoughs—those who said that “being the best isn’t important; I try to be good enough and happy”—felt better about their ability to connect with spouses, and were better able to find time for family, friends and themselves.