Here on Back’NGrooveMom, I am always open and honest with you, my readers, regarding my transition and the absolute craziness of being a mom and a mompreneur. As I embark on some changes and additions on the site, I wanted to share a really special story with you all. Back’NGrooveMom is a place for all moms who need to jump-start their groove whether it be right after baby #1 or after years of staying-at-home.
Having a baby, becoming a mom, and balancing it all with a career is an extremely difficult task on its own. Coupled with postpartum depression, all of the aforementioned can seem nearly impossible. We often keep postpartum depression very quiet and private, but today’s featured mom bravely describes her transition with baby #2, postpartum depression, starting her own business while working, and finding her groove all over again!
Growing up, I always knew that my life was going to revolve around kids. Whether it be babysitting neighbors, watching my nieces and nephews, my career, or my own children, I knew my life would not be complete without the excitement and chaos of kids! Following my heart, I went to school for Child Development. Right after graduation, I got a job as a Behavior Specialist at a school for children with special needs. At the time, I was in my early twenties, renting an apartment, and spending money on having fun. Then, came getting married, buying a house, more responsibility, but also the excitement of starting a family of my own.
When I had my daughter I thought life could not get any better! The joy of being a mom was so overwhelming to me that I could not imagine how I survived without her. When my maternity leave was over and I had to return to work, I never realized how hard it would be to go back. My beautiful baby girl was home with a sitter, but I kept going because of my dedication to the kids.
About a year and a half later, I decided one child wasn’t enough, and it was now time for baby number 2! After baby #2, a son, something happened that I did not plan for – postpartum depression. At the hospital, I sat there with my husband, my daughter, and my brand new baby boy and thought “Life is really perfect now!!” However 3 months later, I started every day with crying in the shower. I decided to go to my doctor and sure enough, postpartum depression hit me. Something that I thought would never happen to me….I loved my kids and I loved my life, but it was more overwhelming to me than I ever thought.
The second time when I had to return to work, it was not the same excitement as it was in the early years. I still loved the kids and loved the idea of helping them, but I just could not handle it the way I used to. Every night I came home saying that I just could not handle it anymore and was going to quit.
I contacted Rachel looking for help with ideas. After talking with her I realized, I didn’t need to leave working with kids altogether, I just needed to change the way I worked with kids. I am still working in my “job”, but a coworker and I decided that we were going take our expertise of behavior management with kids in a new direction. After being around so many parents and hearing them say “I just don’t know what to do anymore. My son/daughter is out of control,” we realized there is a major need for educating parents. These parents needed a new way on how to effectively manage their child’s behavior.
That is how we formed EXHALE Consulting (EXHALE = Expect Help and Lasting Effects)! We prepare workshops for parents who find themselves struggling with structure, discipline, and self-care. We set up a curriculum to offer as a community class or group sessions in people’s homes. In our workshops, parents will learn how to set and stick to rules, keep their lives organized, understand positive reinforcement and consequences, and leave with a whole new bag of tricks to take home.
Although I still feel that I have some changes I need to make to my chaotic life, I am certainly getting my groove back by taking care of myself, but ALSO by taking what I love to do and shifting it into a new way that works for me! – Megan
My heart thumps with pride every time that I read this recollection myself. To be a mom, tackle postpartum depression, work, and become a mompreneur ALL at the same time! Thanks to Megan for sharing her story….Megan, you truly are a strong, brave mom who is feeling her groove!
Have you tackled any of these issues? Did your perspective on your job change after baby #!? #2? Were you affected by postpartum depression? Did you or Do you want to be a mompreneur? Where did you start?