moms – what’s up with back ‘n the groove?

What is all this business with being back ‘n the groove anyway?  What does it all mean?  As women, as moms, & as spouses/partners, how do we define a space for us?  How do we know when that space is in our groove?  Sometimes, as moms, we spend too long in one space, and we need to find our groove in a new space – whatever that is…it is a new realm where we feel great…maybe even groovy.

Whether we work outside the home, inside the home, or stay-at-home, the life cycle is continually on the move for moms.  We are masters of multi-tasking and our skill-set is constantly being refined and updated NO matter what we do professionally or personally.  I remember a few years ago, over cupcakes and coffee, a good friend told me she was going back to work part-time.  It was the right time for her and she discovered her groove excellently!  I always admire how she makes it all happen….kids, husband, work, fitness, time for friends.  A constant reminder to me and all of us that life is fluid in nature, and with each phase, we redefine the groove.

For me, getting back ‘n groove meant figuring out what I wanted to be when I grew up after a decade of being a stay-at-home mom.  For ten years, I supported my hubby who works in a highly intense field and cared for our 2 boys.  I LOVED every single minute, and we had a very distinct groove that made it all click.  BUT, there came a time for me to put on my own dancing shoes.  My boys were establishing their own social lives and finding their niche…now, where the hell was mine?

My dance card started with looking into going back to social work (my field that I have a degree in).  That was not the right partner for me at this stage of the game.  I wanted to create my own rules, form something for me, and make it ALL work in my life.  I started to twirl around the idea of starting my own biz….I took several ideas for a whirl in this process.  All along I had an inkling of an idea burning in my head for a “product.”  I decided to do a round or two with inventing/protoyping.

I liked that groove quite a bit, and opened my experience up to all of you with my blog, an all-access pass to taking a tiny ember of an idea to fruition.  As I moved on down the “dance floor,” there were other moms connecting, and I found that I needed to link hands with these moms, too!  Back’nGrooveMom was no longer just me, but all moms looking to add to their repertoire and turn things up a notch or two.

So – that is part of getting back ‘n the groove – moving with the stages of being a mom and asserting ourselves in a brand new way.  The other part is still being a mom and wife AND rocking work/life balance.  This balance does not happen always, but I try to apply the 70-30 rule with the rocking part accounting for 70 percent.

When we find our groove, we not only create something new and exciting, but we also do not lose sight of what was important to us before.  We schedule, manage, multi-task, and accept when it does not all work.  We infuse both grooves together – the mom groove and our new adventure.

Last week, I hung up from a long inventing/manufacturing related phone call, threw my laptop in my bag, and headed to a quick pedicure before getting my boys and starting the weekend.  As I typed away on my laptop while my feet soaked in the tub, I thought about what it means to be a groovy mom and mompreneur, and I discovered that it means something different to each mom – you have to feel it in your heart.  Rachel

BTW –  I do not think that my pedicure will matter as I put on my hard hat and visit a manufacturing plant this week, but it sure makes me feel back ‘n the groove.

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  • Laurie Hurley May 24, 2011, 4:14 PM

    Well, that sounds very groovy to me. Striking that balance is different for every one of us and what works for me may not work for someone else. It’s like a high wire act, you have to find your center and balance from there, making little adjustments along the way. Sounds like you are walking that line and totally enjoying it. And, pedicures are important – even with closed-toe shoes!

    • Rachel Blaufeld May 25, 2011, 9:46 AM

      You are so right, Laurie – we all have to find out own unique balance! Of course – mine requires good looking toes! Rachel

  • Haralee May 24, 2011, 6:17 PM

    Very Groovy indeed!
    Managing a home, and family and extended family is great experience to becoming an entrepreneur, like you!

    • Rachel Blaufeld May 25, 2011, 9:45 AM

      Thanks Haralee!! When I am not pulling my hair out, I think so! Rachel

  • Denisse Marie May 25, 2011, 12:38 AM

    Love this post! I am actually a mom of three young babies and I am trying really hard not to lose my groove so later when they no longer need me almost every minute of the day, I will still have a small portion of that groove still with me. I have to say, though, that it’s not easy trying to maintain it while being home with them. But I am hoping one day it will pay off and if it doesn’t, I can at least say it helped me stay somewhat sane after raising these three beautiful, yet very energetic three girls!

    • Rachel Blaufeld May 25, 2011, 9:48 AM

      Denisse – you have a great attitude! So smart to accept the now and know that down the road — it will all look different! You are doing a great job….I love your posts! Rachel

  • Donna Amos May 25, 2011, 2:11 PM

    Rachel, I love your writing style. I think the most important thing you said here, is accepting when things don’t always work out. I think moms beat themselves up way to much, when just accepting and moving forward is the best solution.

    Oh, pedicures are a requirement to remain in the groove 🙂

  • Nicole Fende May 28, 2011, 9:29 AM

    Yes we ROCK multi-tasking! Often women undervalue how good they are at this critical skill. Take a look at well paid professional job postings. Most include “Ability to manage multiple projects” Check! “Ability to manage competing deliverables effectively.” Check! “Ability to rule the world (ok I made that one up :))” Check!


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