Earlier in the week, I wrote about my stressful start after the holiday weekend. I am sad to report that unfortunately, the stress trickled, ok maybe flooded is the better word, into my time with the boys over the last few days. After 2 days, the stress was not lessening, and I knew that I must take action.
I had been so excited for Back to School…I saw scheduling, planning, organization, optimal fitness, tasks being crossed off the list, vlogs, and fun family times on the horizon.
How come it all did not fall into place? Were my expectations to high?
Tonight I am attending “Back to School” Night for my boys. They stay home and have fun, and I go to school and follow a condensed version of their schedule. This way, I know what their day looks like, and I have a sense of the dreaded homework expectations. I am able to see the conduct code and the grading system which gives me an accurate depiction of the year ahead. This is great for me AND for the boys depending on how you look at it.
This is useful to the boys because I can now gently (and sometimes not so gently) remind them of the expectations of their individual grades. On the flip side, the boys might not see it as so wonderful because I will hold intimate knowledge of what they should and should not be doing. So, on one hand I am there for them as a back-up reminder of you need to do this and you need to do that. On the other hand, I am a dead weight that will not move until they have done this and that.
I started to think about this in relation to my stress level over the last week or two, and I had a lightbulb moment! There it was – a flash above my very sweaty dirty blond hair (after yoga)….My boys need a “Back to Work” Night. Summer is over, the morning laziness over coffee has abruptly ended, there are no late afternoon ice cream runs, and very little lingering outside until dark. The jig is up.
I adore the flexibility of being a mompreneur over the summer. I get to indulge myself in extra time with my boys, and I juggle the schedule to really allow for FUN time. To me, when school started, I was ready and willing to dive back in full swing to my daily work schedule. I did not need any orientation, I slid back into the routine like I hopefully will into my skinny jeans.
There it was – the evidence: I did not allow my boys the same orientation and easing back into my daily life that the school insists that we give our children.
The answer: First, I needed to calm myself down. Second, I need to devise a way to illustrate the behind the scenes of my mompreneur day for the boys.
I have de-stressed considerably, and I am happy to share my TOP 4 stress busters:
- LAUGHTER — We can never get enough laughter! As women, we carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. Sometimes, we need to shrug it all off and LAUGH! Watch a funny movie, grab a light-hearted book, or catch coffee with your funniest friend.
- YOGA — If you follow me at all, you know that I continually struggle with emptying my mind and doggedly pursue this in yoga. Yoga is an amazing way to do your body good and relax the mind.
- EXERCISE — Not a fan of yoga? Well, carve out an hour for any exercise routine that you do love! Just make the time and do it!
- EAT HEALTHY — I know, I grabbed the candy bag over the last few days, but it really makes the mood worse when you come off the sugar high. Start your day off with a healthy breakfast and continue your day with healthy eating habits, the evening will go a lot more smoothly.
- SHOPPING (oh wait, I said that I was only going to give you my top 4).
Now, you will have to wait for Part 2 to hear about the Back to Work Orientation (especially since I am still working out the details).
How do you get rid of stress? I would love for you to share? Rachel