As moms, do we really like the craziness?

You hear about it everywhere and anywhere – mom guilt, mom angst, work/life balance, working mom vs. stay-at-home mom, blah blah blah.  My good friend, Hollee Temple with Becky Beaupre Gillespie studied the existence of the aforementioned work/life balance along with our standards as moms AND discovered that the notion may not exist.  In reality the lack of balance IS the new standard.  The mom blogging aficionado, Mom 101, wrote about this topic this week….How the hell do moms get it all done? (and bake?)

Funny that Liz over at Mom 101 mentioned the baking part because my Twitter profile says that I bake, but truthfully, that was before I started a business.  Now, I am more like Sarah Jessica Parker in I Don’t Know How She Does It? when she shoves the pie baked at the corner store into the pan to make it look home-baked.  My friend Hollee would say not to worry because Good Enough in the New Perfect – right?

Even more ironic is that this all comes to a head while I am away on a business trip, and aching for my kids but secretly enjoying my morning coffee in peace.  Anyway, I will get to the point…I was invited to attend the iRelaunch Return to Work Conference as a guest, and I am so happy that I went.

I drove to D.C. in the pouring rain, ate bad hotel food for breakfast, grabbed my mompreneur tote and headed to the conference, and it was so EXCITING to walk into a room full of MOMS eager to relaunch after a break in work.  Wait a minute?  These women WANT mom guilt? mom angst? imperfect work/life balance?

YES, these women do!  They want craziness!  A packed room full of women attended the iRelaunch event eager to learn Cohen and Rabin’s steps to getting back into the workforce.  Many of these tips are the same that I write about on this blog for creating our own entrepreneurial experiences.  Regardless, it is important to know that there are steps and tips to get back to work, whether it be traditional or entrepreneurial.  Most important, there are many, many women looking for these tips.

Warning: You may not bake as much when you go back to work, or you will do it a 5 a.m. or 11 p.m. which is when I bake these days, but you will be really, really happy.

Why is it that so many moms packed a building at George Washington University looking for these tips?  Why do I have wonderful readers who are moms looking to reinvent? rebrand?

Could it be that feeling overwhelmed triggers endorphins? makes us feel alive? We complain about it, but maybe we like it? maybe it feels good in a twisted way?

Think about it – the craziness of having a newborn.  We harp about it, but actually we love it.  We are accepting new challenges and stages every day.  Could that be true of working and/or starting a new venture as a mom?

I say yes.  I like the craziness.  You know why?  When the craziness goes right, we feel so accomplished at the end of the day AND it washes away the feelings from when the craziness went awry,

As moms, we make the choices we NEED to make when we NEED to make them.  There are a million reasons why or why not we do what we do….the way we grew up, the way we didn’t grow up, our spouse’s role, the age of our kids, sick family members, anxiety, confusion, recession, layoffs, and just because…..

The craziness must feel good, though, and it is really cool to see how many women showed up seeking it.


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  • Nicole Fende December 2, 2011, 8:23 AM

    Oh I love the corollary to being a new mom. Yes its a crazy sleep deprived time, yet I know I would do it all again for my daughter. You’ve mentioned before your business is in a sense your baby, I know mine is. I thrive on the craziness, bring it on!
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  • Dr. G December 2, 2011, 2:59 PM

    When I was pregnant with my fourth child (and working part time), an acquaintance looked at my belly and the three kids climbing on me. She said “What are you doing? It’s going to be chaos!” And I said, “We knew that. We like a fair amount of chaos.” And it is, and we do. Of course, I’ve wondered if she expected me to say “Oh, you’re right! I better put this one back on the shelf!
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  • Shane December 2, 2011, 4:51 PM

    There is no balance – only ballerinas have it. When we try to find balance we can’t get there, so we might as well sit back and enjoy the ride. When things are calm we are not nearly as productive. Let’s go with it! Great post, Rachel. You know… we just have to do the best we can and muddle through!

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  • Anna December 5, 2011, 5:05 AM

    Oh, I bake in the middle of the night too, when the children finally are in their beds :). I thought I was the only one doing this… 😀
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  • Rachel Blaufeld December 15, 2011, 12:54 PM

    Thank you all for your comments — consensus: there is no balance! It is a matter of how we survive it!

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