continued…..SO it is the First Day of the New Year AND the bucket list and large run down of goals will have to wait. Simply Wait. At this point – who even cares? In fact, last night I already ate pasta with CREAM sauce on the 2nd day of the New Year when I am supposedly eating RIGHT. Bottom line: It it time to get down to it.
I woke up this morning, raring to go. Ready to conquer my lists and workout and be a mom and a wife and look sexy and smart at the same time and oh yeh, achieve balance (I am exhausted just thinking about it). In reality, if I have learned one thing, it is this: Balance is really a FOUR letter word.
There I said it: There is NO Balance. Yep, that means that I have a lot of copy changes to make around this site where I chat up work-life balance because there is no such thing. That is right: None, Nada, Zip.
I say this as I sit here in sweats (I did exercise), eating a Zone bar, not looking particularly sexy or feeling very smart, reflecting on the amazing send off my boys had before school (NOT), and wondering when the F— am I going to make dinner? I mean, today is a new day, the start of the new year, carpe’ diem.
My morning looked something like this: One son ready to go and the other still in pj’s, a snow-covered car and street, a loose dog who took a jog through the neighbor’s yard before coming back, and a mad rush to find out which plugin was making my site act funny after the boys left for school. I think that it was the third time that I banged my coffee cup down that I heard Robin Quivers laughing at ME.
How did Robin Quivers get in my house? Did the dog let her in? OH right – the boys are back at school which means that Dear Hubs is working from his home office while enjoying his favorite Sirius Station – Howard Stern. Don’t get me wrong nor judge me, he is funny – Howard – sometimes. I did prefer him in his ‘I am crazy for Alison days’ to now (even though wife #2 is from Pittsburgh), but regardless he is kinda funny in small doses.
The problem is that Dear Hubs thinks that he is funny in super size portions, so when the boys are gone, he is on. Did I ever mention that we both have home offices – Dear Hubs and ME? We do. It really takes the ‘For Better or Worse’ vow to a whole new level because I have to take Howard piping out of HIS office while the damn plugins are not cooperating.
This is the point that I realized that there is no BALANCE in life. We are fooled to think that there is balance in love, life, and work YET it is just the compromises that we make that allow us to mimic balance. I could either completely lose focus from Robin laughing at me or shut Dear Husband’s door (ok slam it) and move on with my plugins.
(By the way, if you are a TV producer, give me a shout out – you could film one hell of a reality series at my place with husband and wife both running start-ups. Forget Biggest Loser – How about The Fastest to Succeed in Business: Husband vs Wife?)
Anyway, back to the subject at hand: In my opinion, Balance is a myth. My guess is if you feel balanced on a particular day, it is just because on that day, you came out ahead of your list. It only makes the day that your list is crumbling apart and you cannot write your bucket list because your plugins are acting up all while Robin Quivers is laughing at you all along the way THAT MUCH HARDER. In other words, if I fool myself into feeling balanced on any given day, than UNBALANCED is a huge, gigantic let down.
I say life, marriage, work, womanhood, mommyville is more about ebb and flow. If you ride the wave and learn how to fall off your board and get back on, my guess is it will feel better. Take the good with the bad. Pump up the volume on The Michael Jackson Station on Pandora to drone out Howard. Apply mascara while wearing sweats. Ditch the bucket list for mundane everyday shit.
I think that I can say that GOAL #1 of 2012 is to ride the wave of life and get back on when I fall off – No matter how many times I fall.
What is your top goal?
AND, if you disagree and know where balance exists – please share……