my red dress moment

I was all set to review a few Groovalicious Gotta Gets today (blah blah blah), when my feed sent me another direction.  YES – much to many of my loved ones’ dismay – I spend a large part of my time consuming information at the mercy of my computer.  I am a news junkie, blog reader/commenter on subjects far and wide, social media networker, small business advocate, and oh yeh – a blogger myself.

I supposedly provide information for moms to rebrand and reinvent themselves once they drop their little ones off at kindergarten.  Whether a mom works or not in the early years, the newborn stage, and/or the toddler years does not make the shock of dropping your child off at school hit any less.  All of a sudden, your child does not need you as much (so they think) and there is another leading lady or gentleman (teacher) in their life.  UGH.  An ultimate transition for any mom.

It was at this moment that I began my journey.  My adventure included a failed business attempt, countless job interviews for the worst positions ever, and finally, starting a growing business.  It was a conscious choice to share the ups and DOWNS of this process with you.  I open my life, often my family, and my blunders for you, my readers, so you may relate, agree, and or disagree.  I try to provide unique perspectives and information that is on the forefront of this place we affectionately call the blogosphere.

My decision to change roles, redistribute the way things works around my house, and give up long lunches with friends, has been and continues to be viewed as selfish, radical, and questioned several hundred times….Which is why my feed is so touching….

This week, my feed is full of the #travelingreddress.  The traveling red dress was first initiated by Jenny Lawson, The Bloggess (who if you do not read, you should), and is about her need for a red dress even though she really did not NEED one.  Lawson gets her dress, and experiences an extremely indulgent moment with it, and then she sends it traveling around.  The red dress went on tour so many women could enjoy a red dress moment – a moment in which one can ‘imagine the amazing person they want to be‘ like Lawson did.  The dress is worn and tattered now.

Jennifer Leggio outlines the need for a new dress and how social media is a powerhouse tool being used to gather resources for a new one on Forbes today.

This story of the red dress and Lawson’s encouragement to overindulge for a moment coupled with the power of social media (the world that I live in), brings it all together for me.  You see – starting a business is my red dress moment.  My husband was happy with me ‘being home’ and my boys would keep me tied up in the house forever.  We were making life work as it was, yet I wanted to throw caution to the wind, make my life a little crazier, dismiss any notion that I had about work/life balance, and make something of my own.

Although my sons are the sparkle in my life, they are making their own magic.  When I dropped the 2 little guys off at school one morning, I  faced the question – ‘What now?’ I was not thinking about the next hour, but what did I need to feel alive for the next decade?

Going back to social work was the obvious, starting a business was the red dress.  And for me – the power of social media is encouraging other moms that it is OK to NEED frivolous and think about what makes you feel invigorated.  It does not matter whether that is being home, going to work, heading back to school, or doing something as dumb crazy as me – inventing something.

Lawson ends her post with ‘Am I worth it?’

I am.

thank you to The Bloggess for continuing to inspire women to put on their red dress……… 

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  • RowenaStarling January 10, 2012, 9:40 PM

    Marvelous. “do what will inspire you for a decade…” Ummm, that is just plain delicious.
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  • Jessica @FoundtheMarbles January 11, 2012, 6:44 AM

    I adore red dress moments, because we are all worth it.
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  • Megan January 12, 2012, 2:42 PM

    I love red dress moments! With my red nail polish and red watch! Beautiful…

  • Haralee January 12, 2012, 5:01 PM

    Red dress moments are great!

  • Jennifer January 14, 2012, 5:15 PM

    Love the reference to long term happiness, not just for tomorrow. Too often we get caught up in making it day-by-day, week-by-week and not taking a moment to really think about what will, as you say, make us “feel alive” long term.

  • Nicole Fende January 17, 2012, 1:20 AM

    Awesome post Rachel. I think I had a red dress moment just reading it! We’re all worth it!
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