Who is dominating 50 Shades & EL James?

Don’t you fret – I did not forget to write a follow-up to my post on 50 Shades of Grey after reading the 3rd novel.  I simply needed time.  Time to do a tiny bit more research.  I needed a week or two to see if any other BDSM novels captured me the way Fifty did.  (There was also the minor announcement that the movie rights were sold to Universal….)

Would I be drawn into another BDSM romance in the same way that I was pulled into Christian’s universe?  (All in the name of blog research)

The answer plain and simple is: NO.

The third book in the 50 Shades Trilogy did not disappoint.  Spoiler Alert:  All the loose ends are tied up (excuse the pun).  Broken boy meets girls, what seems like hot sex turns to true love, there is challenge, girl rescues boy, and they live happily ever after.  Well, except for when girl pretends to misbehave and the riding crop appears.

Moms are eating Christian up (or trying their very best).  From the chatter at school pickup, bedrooms are steaming up all over the place, and in general – we love the fragmented, broken Christian in his entirety.  So, what is it?  More than likely, it is an age-old fascination of romance crossed with rescue fantasy as in Jane Eyre, Pretty Woman, and Twilight?  With a slightly dirtier twist.

This question looms:  Does this book set us back as women?  The feminists are outraged.  Are we promoting women be dominated?

We are talking about 2 adults consenting in the bedroom here.  There are no references to workplace domination (except for the bad guy).

Alessandra Stanley points out that BDSM/erotica stories have been around the way for a long time like pantyhose, and James did for BDSM what Blakley of Spanx did for pantyhose over at the NY Times.

Mara at MomFaze weighs in with the realization that our lives are hectic, hard, difficult as moms, so what is wrong with a sensual escape?  Mara lost herself with a weekend with Christian and does not regret it.  (Hey, neither do I)

As women, moms, wives, who work, cook, clean?, serve on committees or just serve up school lunch, we can fantasize? Right?

**Before you let the fantasy get carried away, make sure to read Jenny from the Blog’s look at What life married to Christian would really be like.  You may be able to pull yourself from the dregs of fantasy for a moment.

Something important to note is that WE as women created this phenomenon!  IF that is not empowering than what is?  It was all the blogs, Facebook shares, Tweets, and Pins that made Fifty a phenomenon according to The Daily Beast.  If we didn’t like it? Why would we create such hysteria?

In the meantime, back to Book 3 – Fifty Shades Freed.  If you have read it, read on…Otherwise, come back later.  The end left me hungering for more.  In the most obvious Twilight-esque tone, James ends the story with Christian telling the story as the narrator.

Remember, Stephenie Meyer started to do that with Twilight and Edward until someone leaked her manuscript and she pulled the plug on the book?  We were salivating for more, and now we will never get it.

As for James, does she plan to lend us more of Christian’s side? I hope.  If she is smart she will, and at this moment in time – James appears to be one smart entrepreneur who knows an awful lot of BDSM.  No one seems to be dominating James and her Fifty Shades at the moment.

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  • Jenny from the Blog April 3, 2012, 10:02 PM

    Thanks for the shout out! What can I say, I had to come to terms (through humor) so that I could look my hubby in his “non grey” heated and smoldering with love and concern for me, eyes.

    • Rachel Blaufeld April 4, 2012, 6:40 AM

      Understand completely! My friends hubby just got an Audi sports car – she said she saw Christian driving it 😉

  • Dawn April 22, 2012, 4:41 PM

    I don’t understand the statement at the end of the book when
    Christian said to Ana….”You know you are topping from the bottom”
    What does this mean???
    Thanks–driving me crazy

    • Rachel Blaufeld April 22, 2012, 5:29 PM

      ‘topping from the bottom’ means that the submissive is also trying to dominate or make decisions. 🙂

      • Dawn April 23, 2012, 7:42 AM

        thanks sooo much .

  • carla May 16, 2012, 12:13 AM

    I’ve loved reading the 50 shades trilogy. Do I wanna run out and get my ass beat and harshly penetrated? Unlikely, even with the full fantasy broken boy Christian right in my face ready to be saved. It was a darn fine fantasy though. Other women in what are healthy relationships that include a little desired pain for spice? Who am I to judge.

  • A.E.Cross September 6, 2016, 6:45 AM

    It wasn’t the BDSM that drew me to these stories. It was the way his words became so romantic and honest at the oddest times. I enjoyed the sexual play as told by the woman and what she liked. As opposed to the man’s version which only expounded on how big and often the man could thrill the woman until she passed out!! He was always the greatest( for 2 minutes).


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