unexpected gratitude

Originally published November 22, 2011, but oh-so meaningful with a Bar-Mitzvah, new opportunities, and old friends on the horizon.


It is 2 days before Thanksgiving, and the pressure is mounting to write the obligatory ‘What I am thankful for’ post.  Gotta be honest, it is probably not going to happen.  I tend to repel the expected, and more often than not, do the opposite.  I recognize that would mean writing a post about ‘What or Whom I could do without…,’ so that is probably not going to happen either (although there are a few items on that list).


I am certainly thankful for the last year.  Inventing a product while writing and growing this blog obviously are both highlights of 2011 for me, and there are so many thank-you’s involved that I could write until Thanksgiving Day.  That is what made me really think about what I wanted to say/write (I do that from time to time), and I came up with this…..


Almost 11 years ago, I had a baby.  The cutest baby I had ever seen.  A tiny little 7 pound screaming machine, who cracked my tail bone during delivery, and I still adored more than life itself.  There were sleepless nights, days without a nap in sight, breast milk and the lack thereof, pedialyte, formula, plastic bottles (before we knew to use BPA free ones), a husband who worked LONG hours, in-laws, outlaws, and my treasured Fisher-Price $30 bouncy seat with no bells and whistles.


There were no mom blogs to speak about, Facebook was 4 years away from being discovered, Twitter had 6 years to go before being created, and I was ALONE on an island.  Oh yeh. I had friends, but there was no where to log into at 2 a.m. when I was awake with a screaming barfing gorgeous baby, no blogs to write a snarky comment about what my life had become, and no one to commiserate with over my bleeding, dried up boobs that could not sustain my baby.



Even when I gave birth a second time, it was 2003 and still B.S.M. (Before Social Media).  Boy, the blogger world would have eaten up my story of the family vacation we took with a 2-year-old, newborn, recently widowed grandma, dear hubs, and ME with a broken foot in a wheelchair.


While I wish that mom blogs were around when I was a new mom, I am not resentful that they are here now.  The new moms of today feel validated of their psycho, hormone driven new mom persona, and they can read about what to actually buy…Imagine that!  I just ran down the aisle at Target and bought everything there was in the baby aisle in the hope that it would quiet the crying.


Can you imagine the reviews that I would have provided to Fisher-Price on their original, plain jane bouncy seat?  I literally slept with D batteries in my nightstand if that sucker stopped, and YES, that is really what I did with those batteries.


So, on this Thanksgiving of 2011, I am thankful for the mom blogger community.  I am late to the party, but hope to provide insight and humor to those of us who are in the transition between kids and tween and teens.  We both want our own life, but it is not for the taking yet, so we must learn to coexist peacefully – mom and tween.


I am thankful for the mom bloggers that are around for new moms, like my cousin and our gorgeous new addition to the family.  Please don’t ever stop writing…You all provide a service that cannot be replaced.

Finally, I am thankful for the great community of bloggers out there that are patient and inspirational.  You probably have taught me more about life and dreaming big than any degree.


I must say cheers to a few of you –


My first cyber blogging gal friend, Jenny Feldon, who believes in karma and now so do I…..Especially, after we realized that we share mutual real world friends and a love of DD coffee.  Jenny’s undying passion for both being a mom and a writer is infectious, and a good dose of her blog can keep any mom moving forward.


Lara Galloway, who calls herself the Mom Biz Coach, but is so much more.  From best practices in business to validation that I am not ruining my family by creating a business, I run over to Lara’s blog.  Beyond the pleasure of working together one-on-one, Lara has become a true confidante and friend.


Hollee Temple (a childhood friend) and Becky Beaupre Gillespie who wrote a book, The New Perfect, but more than that – encouraged me to do what I do. Hollee and Becky introduced me to blogging, and in fact – I wrote my first blog post EVER for them.  From a few months of chatting back and forth with Hollee on the state of affairs of going from SAHM to WAHM TO the now infamous guest post, Back’nGrooveMom was born.


I recently heard a panel of mom bloggers that included Liz Gumbinner, otherwise known as MOM 101.  I will not accuse Liz of being nice (tried to on Twitter), but she really is…..I aspire to be a quarter as witty and successful as Liz.


Of course, I am thankful for my family, my health, and the fact that I am not making the turkey on Thursday.


To all of you – Happy Thanksgiving.  Rachel

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  • jenny November 22, 2011, 1:08 PM

    Tears. Seriously, tears. I’m SO very thanksful for you, Rachel, and for the social media karma that brought us together. You’ve accomplished so much this year and the mommy blogging/mompreneur worlds are grateful! Now if we could just get on planes RIGHT NOW and meet in the middle so I can give you a giant Thanksgiving hug…

    PS It’s SO not too late to write that newborn-widowed grandma-broken foot post. I’ll be waiting.
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    • Rachel Blaufeld November 22, 2011, 2:51 PM

      jenny – we could probably meet in Topeka, Kansas? xo

  • Lara Galloway November 22, 2011, 1:15 PM

    Oh my goodness. What an incredibly sweet thing you’ve done, Rachel, in sharing your gratitude. I enjoyed reading this post so much, hearing you reflect on the journey that is motherhood, and it’s no wonder you’re doing the great work you’re doing helping moms get their groove back. Our challenges give us our purpose, don’t they?

    Part of being grateful is receiving the gratitude of others. So I totally receive your gratitude for the opportunity I have to be part of your life and along for the ride :). And I am so grateful to have YOU in my life. What you’ve accomplished in the last year alone is amazing. You’re creating a legacy that will make you proud and fulfilled for years to come.

    Wishing you and your family a wonderful Thanksgiving!


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    • Rachel Blaufeld November 22, 2011, 2:51 PM

      lara – hope you have a fabulous holiday wknd w your fam

  • Mom101 November 22, 2011, 2:33 PM

    You’re too kind Rachel! (Was that nice enough for you?)

    Sounds like you pulled off the thankful post just fine. Have a great Thankgiving.
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    • Rachel Blaufeld November 22, 2011, 2:53 PM

      kind, nice, fine or just plain anything – I’ll take it! happy thanksgiving – hope you get lots of stuffing

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