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Being authentic or the lack thereof is an amazing phenomenon lately. Lots of people getting up on their soap box preaching one thing but doing another. Take a long look at the company you keep, and I bet you: you find a few. You know those “experts” who are self-proclaimed mavens or gurus? They know it all, and by golly, they are not afraid to let you know.
These know-it-alls are without faults and exempt from any self-introspection. Their lives are better than yours and mine, and you better believe they’re going to tell you how to get a great life like them.
They are skinnier, in better shape, happier, more successful at work and parenting, and the list could go on and on.
SHUT the F up.
I mean even Linked-In at the end of last year, named Expert to their top 10 list of words to AVOID. So stop. Seriously.
I mean really? what makes them an Expert? Did they go to the Guru School of Expertness?
No, they attached that word to their name/handle/bio and went with it. Do they even practice what they preach?
I am pretty sure I never heard Steve Jobs call himself an expert, my own pediatrician certainly never calls himself one (and I have begged him to), and I am proud to admit, I am expert at nothing.
I always say, “I am no expert, but this is what I do.” And, I own it. Outright.
I put my money where my mouth is like this morning when I rocked a local restaurant’s tank to yoga. I said I would and I did. Why? Small biz is important to me. That’s why. It means something to me to help build local businesses. End of.
Take for example, Gwyneth Paltrow, the most recent “guru” to fall flat on her face. The lifestyle guru, founder of Goop, where she “found [ed] the best of lifestyle,” recently gave all us something to evaluate. Our marriages. Should we “consciously uncoupling” because all the style mavens are…ha.
I think not.
So, remember when your grandma used to say, “If so-and-so jumped off a bridge, would you?” She was dead-on-balls right. Dare I say, there are no more expert words spoken.
At the root of all this searching for a personal guru, parenting maven, social media expert, is that we have completely lost confidence in ourselves. By that, I don’t mean, we know it all or somewhere innately we have all the right information. NO. We just don’t allow ourselves to ask questions. It makes us feel inadequate unless we are asking the advice of an EXPERT.
A self-proclaimed one at that.
Now, you may be asking: “Rachel, what the heck is up today with your rant?”
Well, I will tell you. I recently caught an expert using my idea/solution/advice when talking to a group, and I know it was all mine. AND, guess what? The guru claimed it was their thought. Please.
I remember speaking about this idea with my so-called maven. The memory is Crystal Clear.
…And, at that, it was one idea that was unique to me. A free thought, and not one I passed on from someone else (giving credit).
It just saddens me that we find fault in not knowing something or seeking answers, asking questions, doubting ourselves from time-to-time.
I think it makes us stronger.
What do you think?
(Back to our regularly scheduled programming. Thank God).