I have been noticeably absent from here. Other projects, my kids, my husband, my extended family have all been taking up my time. Its cool, that’s where my head has been at—with all of them and such…
There is always the feeling of keeping their privacy, especially the teen, when it comes to my blogging and writing, so that remains at the forefront of my mind when sitting down at my laptop.
But here I am, back again. Although I’ve been preoccupied, I have NOT been too BUSY to think about this site and what it means. First of all, you know how I feel about the word busy. Its busy white noise because we are all busy and if you’re not, you should get busy. Frankly, before you know it, your time will be up and if you were not busy being busy, what did you waste all those years doing?
What will be your legacy?
Which is exactly what brought me back to the heart of this site…Legacy.
With my youngest in a new school––a middle school for the creative and performing arts––and my oldest finishing up his middle years, preparing to go to high school, I wonder what my life look like to them?
And what will their legacy be? Will they have more than one? Almost certainly.
Will they be busy? Hopefully.
For the last several weeks, I have been FREAKING out as specific dates and deadlines I need to meet intersect, or crash, with important dates for my kids. I have been panicking that we will not come out without a few scrapes or bruised egos, and yet I still pummel forward. Why? Quite simply, because I said I would.
Follow-through being a cornerstone of my mission, the legacy I want to leave behind, so my kids will see me do that in addition to being there for them.
There have been so many lessons in this for me. The curtain has been peeled back to reveal who supports me and who doesn’t, who I can call a friend and who I can’t–– If you say it, you better freaking mean it. Own it. Devour it. Once you check your follow through at the door, no one believes in you anymore.
But what type of advice or tips do I want to give them as they embark on a new adventure and finish up an old one? Other than see life through to the other side passionately, vibrantly, and fully.
1. You are not going to be the best at everything. Find what you love, adore, cannot live without and do your best at it. Believe in it, breathe it, live it. Let someone else be the best at what you cannot do.
2. Just like my grandma said, “Nothing is going to be handed to you on a silver platter.” Not everyone gets into med school or law school, plays first base in little league or is the headliner in a show. If you want something, you have to work for it. Every day and night.
3. Make friends and fall in love with someone who is as passionate about their passions as you are, someone who understands your drive to be who you are and why you do it. Don’t allow anyone to squash your dreams, desires, and vibrancy.
4. When the shit hits the fan, you will look around and only three or four people [and your family] will be standing by your side and that’s okay. You’re strong and can handle what life throws your way.If you say you’re going to do it, you damn better do it.
OKAY, I’m off my soap box and back to work.